6 Tips for The Recently Engaged

Wow! The very first month of 2016 is almost over, and this is my very first blogpost for 2016! I know that it appears that I have fallen off the face of the earth. I took a well deserved break from TKH, and so much has happened. First things first, I am engaged. Martin (My fiancé) and I will be pronounced husband and wife on August 27th 2016. We got engaged on December 26th 2015, and I must say that I am the happiest I've ever been. I am also extremely busy, but this is a topic for another day.

It's been one month since we got engaged, and I have already encountered a few things on the road. That is why I am writing a few tips on TKH today for the recently engaged. So take a seat, breathe, and let's chat for a few minutes.

One of the hardest things for me has been knowing what to do first. I've never been married before, nor have I had a chance to help plan any wedding, so "Where do I start" was my biggest question.

1. Get Inspired: Let's be honest, we all have a wedding board on Pinterest, so go online and look for inspiration. Pinterest will become your best friend (You can take a peek at my board here). Get an idea for the style of wedding you are looking for. Look at different options, and fall in love by picturing the big day. You can also buy wedding magazines, which is also what I have done, and get inspired there. I love looking at different wedding blogs also, some of my favorites are: Style Me Pretty, Junebug Weddings, 100 Layer Cake, and Green Wedding Shoes.

2. Accept Help: We are all busy somehow, and to be completely honest with you, you will not be able to do all of the planning on your own. I recently started school full time, and I am grateful to have my future mother-in-law and friend helping with all of the planning. We agreed that it would be best if they took control over the planning. Of course they include me in every decision, but I find this option to be the best because 3 brains full of ideas is always better than one, and we are able to get a lot of things done this way.

3. Make A Budget: This is a very important tip. One of our first talks with our pastor was precisely about money. He advised us to budget to avoid overspending. You do not want to enter into a marriage with debt. So make a budget for everything: the venue, the photographer, the cake, and the groomsmen and bridesmaid attire. Everything should be included. Martin and I have a google drive, where we input every single detail about our budget. I advise you to do the same.

4. Get Organized: Have a folder specifically for the planning of your wedding. In this folder you can include, the guest list, inspiration, the budget list, invitations, thank you notes, a timeline or to-do list, and other important things needed for your wedding. I am actually in the process of creating one myself, and I must say, it feels great knowing that everything is organized. You can also create a google drive folder, and keep all of the information organized in a digital file for only the two of you to share. Google drive has a lot of spreadsheets that can be easily edited. You can also do a google search for free wedding planning spreadsheets. The point here is to get organized.

5. Positive Vibes Only: There will be people who are going to be genuinely happy for you, and then there will be people who will think you are crazy for even considering marriage. Some of these people may or may not be people who are close to you, such as, family or friends. Whatever the case may be do not let the negative comments affect you. You may even get people who do not agree with your choices for the wedding like the color you choose, the theme, your ring, or even your bridal party(Brides + Groomsmen). Ignore it all. At the end of the day this day is about you and your soon to be. As long as you two are happy with the details, that is all that matters.

6. Breathe + Enjoy: It can be so easy to get caught up in the craze of all of the planning, but don't forget to sit down and enjoy being engaged. This is a very special moment and time for you and your main squeeze, enjoy it. I find that some of my favorite moments is being able to sit down and relax next to my future husband and talk about how things will be in the future. Smile and enjoy this time.

I am very excited for this brand new adventure in our lives, and I can't explain the happiness in my heart. Knowing that I will be marrying the man of my dreams in just a few short months makes me extremely happy. It's nerve wrecking don't get me wrong, but I just can't wait until the day.

For those of you who just got engaged, congratulations! I hope you are ready for all of the planning, don't forget to enjoy it all.

Are you engaged or married? If so, let me hear some of your tips...

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  1. This is a great list and really helpful for someone recently engaged! I should have found this years ago :)

    Cassie | www.diyjahn.com

    1. Thank you for taking the time to read it! If you have any tips at all please feel free to post them!

  2. These are great tips. I am recently engaged too (we actually got engage on December 25th - so I'm right there with you), but haven't gotten fully into the planning period yet since my wedding date is not until next year (April 2017). But we have already booked our venue. I've just been enjoying the recently engaged glow. Good luck with your wedding planning!

    oxo, Lesh

    1. Oh wow! Congrats!! Being engaged is totally exciting and fun! You still have more to go but these months are going to go by so super fast. I hope you have a wonderful time planning your big day!

  3. Great tips! I got married in October, so the days of wedding planning is still clearly etched in my brain. Lots of busyness, but so much to be joyful about! Here are a few tips that helped me:
    1. Premarital counseling. We learned a lot about communicating (especially during conflict and sharing our expectations), handling finances as a couple, dealing with family and becoming our own family, etc. I recommend it for every couple!

    2. Take "selah" breaks to pause from the busyness. Read a non-wedding book, go for a walk, journal some thoughts about this season that you'll look back on when you're married, write letters to your fiancé to give on your wedding day/during marriage, hang out with friends and don't mention wedding stuff. It's nice to take a pause from all the wedding stuff and do things that give you rest when you feel overwhelmed.

    3. To piggyback that thought, have a date a week that you and your fiancé have limited (or none at all!) conversations about wedding planning. Dream together about where you'd like to be in 5 years or places you'd like to travel together one day, or really, talk about anything other than wedding planning. It reminded me about the reasons I want to marry the guy in the first place, when we took our eyes from stressful planning.

    4. Try to chat with married women you respect, both recently married as well as older women too. I had a few generic questions I asked them and then made them more personal depending on what I wanted to ask that specific woman. Examples included: how do you deal with conflict with your hubby and how can you respect him even if you don't agree on a specific issue?

    5. Read a marriage book together. We loved "You and Me Forever" by Francis and Lisa Chan!

    1. Thank you so much for these extra tips! You are so new to the married life too! I will soon be there with you! I will definitely look into that book so my fiancé and I can read it together! Thank you once again for reading and sharing!