The Big Day: Choosing Your Bridal Squad

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When Martin and I got engaged, I knew we would have many important decisions to make. But there was one decision in particular that I couldn't wait to make: choosing my bridal party.

This can be either extremely easy or extremely difficult. This decision for me was one of easiest because I already knew who I wanted to stand by my side. It was also one of the funnest because I knew I wanted to do something extra special for my girls. Today I want to share some things that you should keep in mind while choosing your girls because I know that anyone could run intro a few ruts when making an important decision.

Don't rush into it: If you recently got engaged and are unsure of who you want in your wedding, don't sweat it. Sit down, breathe, and think about it. You don't want to rush into something only to feel like you left someone out. Choosing your girls doesn't have to be a burden. It should be fun and exciting. Allow yourself to enjoy the "Recently Engaged" stage, and then think about who you would want to be by your side on the most beautiful day of your life.

It's YOUR big day: With that being said, don't feel pressured to choose someone you truly don't want as part of your wedding party. You can not please the entire world. If you really want to include someone, but not as a bridesmaid, then think of alternative ways in which you could involve them. This day belongs to you and your fiancé, so any decision you two make should not have to go through anyone else.

There is no limit: I feel like there is this invisible rule that everyone sets that states that you can only have a certain number of bridesmaids, but that is not true. I have 7 bridesmaids. Lauren Conrad had 10. You can have 10 or 1 there is no maximum or minimum number of bridesmaids you can have in your wedding. It is all completely up to you, as long as you are happy with your gang, that is all that matters.

Communicate numbers with your main squeeze: It's important to be in constant communication with your partner. If you want 5 bridesmaids, but your fiancé only wants 4 groomsmen, then there should be some sort of compromise. Always stay in constant communication.

Set Expectations: Set expectations for your girls. They will have to be present for just about every important decision you make. Also, let them know nicely that they should stay in communication with you. If they can not afford to pay for a dress and shoes at the moment then they should let you know.

Most importantly just remember that you should choose the people who make you feel supported. Choose the girls who you know are just as happy as you are about this next big step in your life. You would not want to be surrounded by people who make you feel unloved and unsupported. This is a very exciting and important step in your life, and you should feel like your girls have you back.

Breathe in, relax, smile, and have fun. Once you have your girls you can choose a fun way to ask them to be a part of your wedding. I hope this was helpful. Also, if you recently got engaged make sure to check out my tips on what to do next here. What are some of the difficulties you have encountered when choosing your girls? Let me know in the comments down below, I would definitely love to hear them. Until next time.

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  1. Setting expectations is so important. I have been a bridesmaid twice and it was so much easier when the bride communicated well.

  2. Wow! I just got engaged, and I have been having such a difficult time because I am so scared to leave someone out. This was truly helpful. Thank you so much for all of the lovely tips.

  3. Color scheme plays an important role while planning your wedding. Loved these wedding party outfits! I am going to host a bridal party and have some awesome ideas for it already. For my wedding at DC wedding venues, going to use ideas and color scheme you shared here.